I believe you have to see your dream in your mind, hear it, feel it and believe it, before you can achieve it.
You have to start with the end in mind.
After Christy and I lost our first set of twins we were at a defining moment in life, in the future of our family.
Would we gather the strength to go again?
Or let fear win and stop trying to find our way our children.
It would have been so much easier to stop, to give in, accept defeat.
Let our pain from our miscarriages overwhelm us. We had to be brave. We had to be fearless.
Mentally and emotionally risk it all. For the chance to have it all.
Before we could have our Dream we had to Believe in our Dream again.
Believe that our Children were meant to be here with us. Often we doubted ourselves.
Doubted if we could rise up to the challenges. To face our fears and try again. And again. And again.
Until we did it. Until our Children were with us. For awhile, we were lost. We couldn’t find our direction.
We would take long lonely walks together. Christy and I on Coronado Beach.
Walking and talking about our Children. They were with us – even when they weren’t here.
We’ve been a family for years. Together at the beach.
Christy would stop and pick up the shells.
We could hear Austin calling us. Calling out… “Mommy…Daddy…”.
Every shell that Christy picked up we could hear her calling us.
Then her voice grew stronger.
We could hear it in the waves. In the wind.
“Mommy…Daddy…”.
Her voice called us.
Guided us through danger, through the dark, through the storms.
Finally, after the longest journey ever. Austin was born.
She was with us. We were a family.
Together finally. We started taking Austin to the beach with us.
Eventually, she could go on walks with us.
Austin started picking up the shells at the beach with her Mommy. Her Daddy.
When she listened to the shells – she heard her brothers and sister calling us.
Calling for all of us. To come on a journey and find them.
To be together. At first the voices were faint. We tried to ignore them.
They aren’t calling us. We are exhausted from our last adventure.
We know how much there was to lose on the journey. To much to risk.
We wanted to protect ourselves from the of loss that we new all so well But, every time we went to the beach and they picked up the shells we heard our children calling us.
“Mommy…Daddy…”.
Their voices grew louder the longer we didn’t come to them.
We no longer only heard them from Sea Shells.
Now we heard them everywhere.
Planes flying overhead.
Trains going by. Whispering in the afternoon breeze.
“Mommy…Daddy…”.
Be Brave. Be Fearless. Come find us. And we Did.
We went on our biggest adventure.
We traveled the Earth. Climbed our Mountains. Slayed our Dragons, planted our fag and returned the victor.
We conquered IVF Land and Surrogacy World.
We are finally at the beach. As a family. Together for the first time. Together Again. Together for all time. All because we believed n our dream.
Have you ever wanted to freeze a moment in time and live in that moment forever?
After our long journey to complete our family through Surrogacy that is where I am today; glowing in the moment of finally having our family come together.
I hired a local San Diego artist named Stephanie Clair to help create a picture for us to represent this moment, so it will last forever.
I gave this gif to Christy for Mothers Day 2017.
As the artist worked on the painting we were in Oregon waiting for our twins, Blake and Cannon, to be born.
One evening we watched the movie Beauty and the Beast.
A short song sung by Belle’s father captures the emotion of a moment and the value of keeping that moment close to us always.
HOW DOES A MOMENT LAST FOREVER? HOW CAN A STORY NEVER DIE?
IT IS LOVE WE MUST HOLD ONTO NEVER EASY, BUT WE TRY SOMETIMES OUR HAPPINESS IS CAPTURED SOMEHOW, A TIME AND PLACE STAND STILL ALWAYS WILL.
Capture and enjoy every moment and milestone that you can during your Surrogacy Journey.
